A long time ago, I had a friend whose mother enjoyed reading Tarot Cards. I liked to sit and listen as she foretold my other friends’ futures but whenever it was my turn, I always declined. I knew what she was going to say. I knew she was going to tell me that I was not in a good relationship, that I should and will eventually leave, that my marriage would end in divorce.
And though I knew deep down inside the truth, I wasn’t prepared to hear it being said out loud. I would have to face it right then. I would have to change. My whole life would change. My children were young. I wasn’t ready. So I hid the truth for everyone including myself. I buried it inside so that I could carry on. Carry on but get ready and prepare for change.
There is a lot of talk about change amongst friends and you can certainly be witness to it on FaceBook. It seems like everyone is making huge changes in their lives and it feels like you are stuck. You want change and you think about it all the time. You can’t move forward and you don’t know why.
First off, know that those that are making changes have probably been in the process a lot longer than you think. Huge changes rarely happen over night. Second, maybe it just isn’t the right time for you. You need to know that is ok. Change without preparation and proper timing will most likely fail. So stop being so hard on yourself.
3 Reasons You Are Not Ready For Change
1. Too Many Balls In The Air
Maybe you just have too much going on. It happens. You are so busy you don’t have enough time to think, let alone plan for change. You carry on, day after day, on auto-pilot. Sometimes you don’t even know why you do the things you always do. It is just your routine. Well if you really want change, you need to re-evaluate your priorities and make time to figure things out.
You need to lighten your load:
- delegate some responsibilities
- eliminate activities that zap your time and energy
- ask for help
2. Negative Talk
Are you surrounded by nay-sayers? Or maybe it is your own self-talk holding you back. Words and thoughts are very powerful. They can raise you up or knock you down.
Combat that negative talk:
- remove yourself temporarily from people that don’t support your vision
- engage with people who have done what you want to do
- read a book about positive thinking
- tell yourself you can and believe it
- meditate or engage in activities that clear your mind
3. All Talk, No Action
You may just be one of those people who needs to stay in their comfort zone. There is nothing wrong with that. Don’t get sucked in about wanting change because everyone else is doing it when you know full well when and if it happens you will hate it. Far too much emphasis is put on changing your life. It isn’t for everyone and you need to decide if you are the type of person that will embrace it or revolt against it when it happens and be extremely unhappy.
However, if you are one of those people who talks a lot about all the things you want to do and really, really want it, like the old saying goes, “shit or get off the pot”. Stop wasting so much time dreaming and start making a plan to achieve your goals.
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