You would think that as women grow older, high school behavior would be left behind. But it's not. Women are bitches in the workplace too.

You would think that as women grow older, high school behavior would be left behind. But it's not. Women are bitches in the workplace too.

Yeah, i said it. And you know it’s true. Men know it’s true. That’s how and why they can divide and conquer us so easily sometimes. Women can be our best friends and our best advocates in one breath, then takes us down and hurt us worse than any man ever could in the next.

Why is that? Why does it happen? I’ve been the offender more times than I would like to admit. Something takes over and boom, you become this destructive force. But never in a right in your face, I don’t like you kind of way, but a passive aggressive, back door, squeeze you out so no one will like, talk or respect you kind of way.

Women know exactly how to hurt other women. We don’t do it with fists or with names. We do it with feelings. Feeling left out and excluded can cut us to the core. Feeling used and tossed away can leave us questioning our own self-worth. Feeling small and unimportant can make us feel insignificant.

Is there anything worse than feeling invisible in a group you regard as your peers? I doubt it.

I actually have one friend who won’t work for, or with, women. I thought that was crazy when I first heard her say this. But hear her out. She can’t stand the gossip, the power trips and the cliquey nature of working with a group of women. I have to admit, I have worked in a lot of high percentage women, job environments and the scenarios she describes happen all the time.

I’ve seen women go home crying from work because of interaction with other women. I’ve seen one woman’s personal vendetta turn a whole workforce against one person. I’ve seen women put others through an initiation of sorts before they are welcomed into the group. If you think ‘Mean Girls’ happens only in High School you haven’t worked in an all female environment.

You would think that we would grow out of it, but it seems we don’t. I fight the urge to not be exclusionary with new acquaintances. I fight the urge to talk about other people. I fight the urge to use other people for my own personal gain. I am normally a very welcoming, sharing, generous person but when you are thrown into an environment where one woman starts the bitchiness, the avalanche begins.

And I’m not saying that there aren’t situations that call for a bitch. There definitely are. But in casual, friendly circumstances, it does not. Especially on the Internet and social media. If you do it behind a computer screen, not only are you a bitch but a vindictive coward.

Don’t lie and say you don’t do any of those things. If you’re a bitch. own it. Then you can change it. Women are really good at seeing right through you. We know you do it because we know how you think. Don’t try to pull a fast one on us.

The worst part is that we probably won’t confront the bitch about it. It’s not in our nature. And usually we won’t because we are afraid that if we do, we will be labelled the bitch. How crazy is that?

You don’t do any of the things I mentioned? Well, good for you Mother Teresa.

For the rest of us sinners, I propose that we not give in to the territorial, green-eyed monster, the high school mean girl, the competitive cow. Β Work together. Raise each other up. We all win through each others’ triumphs. Make everyone feel accepted and important. And if someone is treating you or someone else poorly, call them on it. Don’t help give credence that women are bitches.

 

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